I had a new deck of cards come today and I chose to purchase a deck that is not by Doreen Virtue this time. I’m anxious to use them so let’s get to the reading!
Our card for today, Tuesday, May 13th, is taken from The Psychic Tarot for the Heart Oracle Deck by John Holland – # 5 Challenging Times – Key words: Ego, conflict, challenges, and competition.
The violet border on this card symbolizes: good judgment, fulfillment, peace of mind, balance, wisdom, patience, trust, removing obstacles, and uneasiness. Violet is associated with the Crown Chakra. (The Psychic Tarot for the Heart Guidebook)
The number 5 represents freedom, transformation, sensuality, desire, change, resistance, uncertainty, inconsistency, and sadness. (The Psychic Tarot for the Heart Guidebook)
This card represents issues arising in our relationships. Most often issues in our relationships, especially romantic relationships, come from misunderstandings and failure to communicate. When issues or challenges arise, we usually erect barriers, or raise our shields, to protect our hearts. We don’t want to be hurt and we are fearful that our beloved will leave us. We take the stance that it doesn’t matter, we don’t care, if they do leave us and we pretend that nothing can hurt us.
However, as we all know, this stance of pretending not to care is not how we truly feel. Of course we are afraid of losing the one we love more than anything else. Of course we are afraid of being hurt by this one who holds our heart in their hands. There is nothing wrong with being vulnerable to this one and telling them what our fears are and that we are afraid of losing them.
Leaving things unsaid for the sake of pride does no one any good and certainly doesn’t help our relationships. When issues arise they must be dealt with immediately, we can’t pretend it didn’t happen or isn’t happening right now. If we don’t talk about it then it will fester inside us creating distance between us and them, and causes distrust. Then in the next argument, or even something small that upsets us, it all comes out like lava spewing from a volcano.
We need to be able to trust our partners enough to be able to voice our concerns and be heard. However if we take the stance of attacking our partner by saying things like “You did this” or “You didn’t do that”, that will only make matters worse and put them on the defensive as well. Then they will raise their shields to protect themselves from us.
What is needed is to approach them with love, remind them of how much we love them and then tell them we have concerns that we would like to discuss in a calm and rational way. This type of conversation might start with “I am afraid that we are growing apart” or “I miss you when we don’t spend as much time together”. Beginning with “I” instead of “You” keeps us from blaming our partner.
There are few challenges in relationships that can’t be overcome with love and forgiveness. It takes being able to communicate our feelings in a way that respects the feelings of our partners. It takes being able to remain calm so that it doesn’t escalate into a shouting match which usually ends with one person walking away.
Something to remember here too is that we are all undergoing changes right now from the increase in light energy on this planet. It’s affecting and transforming every one of us in different ways. This will mean that our relationships will also undergo a transformation as well. This is going to require patience, the use of our best communication skills, and the remembrance of the love we feel for our partner. If we remain in our hearts and let love guide us, we can come through any challenging times in our relationships stronger and more committed than ever before. We need to remember to ask “What would love do?”
Have a great day everyone! ~Namaste~
Love✲ ¸¸.•*¨¸.☆.¸＊°˚ ˚
& Light ♫☯♪ ☼ AuroraLightStar
Artwork taken from The Psychic Tarot for the Heart Oracle Deck, Challenging Times, artist: John Matson.